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Former police officer 🚔 | Suicide hotline volunteer 📞 | PTSD survivor 💪 | Helping others navigate tough conversations with empathy and clarity 💬

Imagine a World Where Healing from Trauma is Possible

Hi Reader, I've been battling PTSD for over 20 years. A Harley Street Doctor once told me that I was 100% disabled for the rest of my life. However, I refused to accept my fate and have recovered to a level I never thought possible. I'm not special in this regard. Many other people recover from appalling trauma and abuse. Every day I tell my story online because if I can do it, so can you. This week's theme is trauma and recovery. Top Picks of the Week. 1. Finding Light in the Darkness: How...

Grieving the Complex Relationship With My Dad

The day my dad died was one of the worst days of my life. It wasn’t even unexpected, as he’d suffered from heart disease and a brain bleed leading up to the fateful day. But it still cut me like a knife. I saw him dead on the floor, and I heard his body bag brush against the wall as the funeral directors carried him out. You can’t prepare for an event like that. For two years after, I struggled to do anything without him coming into my mind. People say they find comfort in the pleasant...

Why You Need to Learn How to Cope With Stress

As a former police officer who was medically retired with PTSD, I know something about stress. Many people dismiss it as part of life, and while that is true, left unchecked, stress can destroy your life. Modern society is more affected by my stress than ever before: In the past year, 74% of people have felt so stressed they couldn’t cope. 46% have unhealthy eating habits due to stress. 29% started or increased their consumption of alcohol. 16% started or increased their smoking. 51% of...

The Importance of Gratitude

Hello Reader, I plan a lot for the future. I have ambitions and targets that I want to achieve. But if we dwell too much on the future, we don't notice all the good things about our lives right now. Therefore, every day I make a point of going over everything I'm grateful for - specifically my loved ones, my health, home and financial security. Today I want to focus on gratitude and the benefits it offers. Top Picks of the Week. Oh, the Things Your Hands Have Done, the Things They’ve Seen Joe...

How I’m Using Me.bot to Improve My Mental Health

I've recovered from a 20-year battle with PTSD and schizophrenia. My mental health is better than it has ever been. But that doesn't mean everything’s perfect: I still have bad days where I feel the black dog of depression biting at my heels I still have times where my mind feels overloaded with thoughts and pressure I still have times when I want to vent and complain without worrying my loved ones Therefore, I'm always looking for new ways to continue my recovery. Life is about striving to...

My Journey With EMDR Therapy

I sat in an office, watching a blue light move left and right. A therapist was asking me probing questions, trying to pull every agonizing detail of my trauma out of me. Believe it or not, this is a form of therapy for PTSD. It’s called EMDR, which stands for Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing. I suffered trauma as a police officer, and this strange therapeutic practice would dictate whether I’d ever return to the job I loved. A brief history of EMDR. EMDR works on the theory that...

Death Is Always on My Mind

Nobody had seen the young man for weeks. Now, neighbors were reporting a foul smell emanating from his bedsit. I’d been a police officer long enough to know what that smell meant. But I wasn’t prepared for what I saw. After breaking down the door and pushing a sofa away, I discovered that the man had hanged himself. I bumped into him. It wasn’t my first encounter with death, but it was one of the most graphic. The smell stayed on my clothes and my skin for weeks. For a long time, I used to...

Love and Second Chances With a Rescue Dog

Hi friends, Welcome to a new feature where I'll send you some of the most exciting and valuable content from around the web every Thursday. This week's theme is pets. Three weeks ago, we bought a rescue dog named Thor after he'd been stuck in kennels for 301 nights. We've changed his life, and he's changed ours. Thor I've found all our pets to be huge boosts to my mental health. It's hard not to smile when you see such a bundle of joy every day. Top Picks of the Week. 1. How My Dog Taught Me...

How I Navigate Setbacks on the Path to Mental Health Recovery

I am the underdog, and I want to prove that one can follow one’s dreams despite all the flaws and setbacks. Winnie Harlow I’ve been recovering from depression for several years now. But sometimes, I still struggle. Recently, it has been one of those times. I find my mind wandering to places that cause me anxiety — the hurting places. Instead of being 100% focused on what I’m doing, I wonder what the point is. I’m dwelling on past adverse events, and the things I enjoy feel blah. I know that...

Why I Had to Hit Rock Bottom to Love Myself

Self-love eluded me for most of my life. Despite my parent’s love, I faced relentless bullying at school. As a kid, you pay more attention to your peers. You reason that your parents have to love you, while your peers are more honest. The physical abuse healed with only a single scar on my left hand, but the mental torment lingered. They mocked my teeth, hair, weight, the way I walked and ran, my name, my parent’s house, my eyes, and the way that I shouted for help as they beat me. When they...

Former police officer 🚔 | Suicide hotline volunteer 📞 | PTSD survivor 💪 | Helping others navigate tough conversations with empathy and clarity 💬